I guess being a mom of six children has required me to learn a thing or two about the whole parenting thing. I guess it would make sense to post a word of encouragement/advice from time to time to encourage other mothers. Even if it is advice you already know it can stir your heart to hear it again (mine, too). Mommas talking about being mommas makes us want to be better mommas. That simple.
Parenting
Topic: Tone of Voice
One of the things I pay the most attention to when addressing my children is my tone of voice. The secret to great parenting is now out of the bag. I say that because when a mother controls her tone of voice when addressing her children people's ear perk up. They're impressed. So simple, but so effective. I have also learned over time that if my tone is good then how I respond and/or address my children is good, too.
My advice for today is if/when you become irritated or if there is an "issue" to address then first find a gentle tone. Also, allow your hands, touch, etc to be gentle. Gentleness actually deters irritability and produces amazing self control. It makes you feel like a REAL MOM and not an impostor that should have a photo on America's Most Wanted.
We can't discipline, train or inspire our children towards better behavior if we're irritable so taking a moment to shake off the irritability is worth it. Our tone of voice greatly effects our level of irritability. Tired of being so irritable all the time? Then try changing your tone. In addition, incredible words of wisdom (I mean sentences that you can't believe came from you and not Dr. James Dobson) tend to flow from a controlled tone of voice. And when we have no control over our tone.... let's not even think of the things that can come out of our mouths when that happens! It's enough to make the best of the best of mommas wince because of their own "shocking" behavior.
Verse:Romans 12:21
"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."
9 comments:
OH my tone is one I really have to keep under control, esp. when i want to pop some heads clean off some shoulders! Thanks for the encouragment.
That is such sweet encouragement and so very true. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
I have an example too to prove it. Just today we were having a hard schooling day. I was wanting my daughter to do her work on her own because she can but today was one of those days she needed extra reassurance. So at first I found myself getting frustrated and my tone was not great saying why is this a problem you know what you are doing but then I had to stop myself and then I grabbed her and hugged her and said I was sorry but I was not understanding why this was all of a sudden so hard? So then I grabbed her up and sat her in my lap and as soon as I did she was able to complete her work with some simple yeah that's it, you can do it type of words. So there you go.
Love you!
Ang
So true! Tone changes everything...
Don't I know it...don't tell mom i said that...lol! :)
This was wonderful. Tone that is an understatemetn in my house. Guess that is something I should try to work on. Thanks for the reminder
Amen sister. You are so right! We need to watch our tone with everyone we talk too, especially our highly perceptive children.
Great blog!
In Him,
Nancy
Tell your daughter hi from me!! Loved this post... goes hand-in-hand with the fruit of the Spirit, I think.
Thank you so much for that. I have struggled relentlessly this week with the enemy's attacks, and I have played into them by not controlling my tone.
I look forward to a fresh, gentler start tomorrow!
Good advice!
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