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Saturday, April 12, 2008

Let's Hurry!!!

It use to be that I didn't enjoy myself very much. Everything I had to do as a mother seemed like a big CHORE. I was always wanting rest and rest was always eluding me. The needs of my children (at the time there were two) seemed unending, so every time there was a need it always took me off guard. AGAIN? I would say to myself. I JUST.... fill in the gap. My little blessings had turned into burdens and I didn't even recognize the fact that I had succumbed to that conclusion.


I specifically remember going to Target one day. The children had to use the restroom. Of course. I didn't want to go to the restroom. I hate public restrooms. I immediately went into "let's hurry mode". My plan was to get in and out of there as quickly as possible so I could move on with life - which was trying to get out of Target as quickly as possible.


NOTE: Torment= A mother with small children trying to hurry. Period.


Anyway, I was in a hurry. They used the restroom which was an ordeal in itself, always was. When they were washing their hands they wanted to get the soap themselves. I wanted to get the soap for them so we could HURRY. Then they wanted to get their own paper towel. I told them no. We were in a HURRY. Then the Lord spoke to me. "Why are you in such a hurry all the time? Is the president waiting for you? Is there some important engagement?" Actually, my schedule was pretty much open. I was a stay at home mother. I actually had nothing to do. Most of my day I fought boredom.


The Lord then challenged me. "Why not enjoy your children? Why not let them get their own soap? Their own paper towel? So little makes them so happy. That in itself is a gift that only lasts a short time." I realized one day pulling the paper towel lever won't be such a big thing. Maybe I should enjoy it now.


That day life began to change for me. I resisted the silly and even pointless urge to always hurry through life. I decided I was going to stop and smell the flowers and let everything I do be fun with my children - even the WORK they required. God has honored that desire and the burdens I felt when parenting my children are overshadowed by the blessings I am now experiencing.


Children are A LOT of work but think of all the EXERCISE we're getting! If I could just sit all day would I really want that? No! God is true to His Word. He wasn't lying when He said children were a blessing. When life beats us down and we begin to look at them as burdens, then we can cry out to God and He can change our perspective. I have never had God leave the prayer of, "Help me to love and ENJOY my children" unanswered. Not only can He help me to enjoy them, He can even help me enjoy pulling a paper towel lever.... and enjoying our children will cause our peace to flow like a river.


Slowing down to enjoy everyday life with my children is one of the greatest lessons I have learned as a mom. A mom once told me she saw me leave Wal-Mart with five children and she noticed I was having the best time and smiling. And, yes, I did say Wal-Mart. She thought it was because I was a great mother. It was really because I serve a great God who pointed out to me the source of much of my frustration and lack of joy. He taught me how to relish in my life's work. My God taught me to smell the roses....even in public restrooms. And even when the roses look a lot like paper towels.
"Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him." Psalms 127:3

15 comments:

Erica said...

It never ceases to amaze me that the exact thing I am struggling with has an answer when I am looking. Your words could not have been more timely. I have been having such a time with that lately~Going through the motions and feeling so guilty at the same time. I had made a decision last night to let today start fresh. This afternoon, I took the girls to the pool...for the second day in a row. Once I got over the thought that it was going to be a chore, I actually had fun watching them enjoy such a simple thing as water gathered in a big hole! Tonight I suggested going to the pet store after dinner, even though it is something I usually put off until "next time".Thank you for your insight...I am really going to make an effort to slow down. I feel so blessed to get to read your words.

Sapphira Adi said...

Wow! Your words are really inspirational. I'll add the link in a few minutes. To add a link all you have to do is click cutomize at the top of the page, click add a page element, then a little window will pop up and click which option you want and in this case link list, then copy and paste the link of the blog or website you want in the URL Name option, then fill in the name of the blog or website in the Link Name option so that name will show up on your blog. That's about all their is to it. If I can do it, anyone can do it. lol. Anyway, I really liked the post. I better go add that link now:)

Sapphira

ocean mommy said...

So true...

We tend to "hurry" through each phase of their childhood, only to miss those days when they are over! I already miss the chubby little legs and arms that would hang onto my legs while I tried to cook, or mop...today, they want to do those things with me and I LOVE it...who knows when that will change!

Naomi said...

I echo Erica's comment.."It never ceases to amaze me that the exact thing I am struggling with has an answer when I am looking. Your words could not have been more timely. I have been having such a time with that lately~Going through the motions and feeling so guilty at the same time."....Thank you for sharing that we are not alone...I'm going to start a fresh now!!LORD help me to remember that joys in small things for kids, enjoy them and not hurry through everything. Amen.

Kara, May the Lord God bless you this week ahead.
Love NAomi

Araken said...

That is a fabulous lesson to be learned! I used to hate doing what mom called 'chores', but now I have decided to try and enjoy everything I do. It isn't bad after all!

Erica said...

Is it still cold where you are? It's crazy because we did the pool thing this weekend, I dressed my girls in sundresses this morning, and they FROZE! You never know what you are going to get! I can't wait to hear what the Lord says to you this week.

God's girl said...

You are such a blessing to me friend! God has given you amazing insight about the Love He has for young children.
Love you!
Ang

Naomi said...

Kara,
I just wanted to say thank you so much for your amazing words of encouragement on my blogs. After my first responces (which where far from good) to each situation in my life, I feel such a peace that God will supply our every need. I suppose that you could say that I have let go and letting God do his work.

To answer a few of questions... My hubby(mike) teaches New Testament at Highland Theological College, and a published auther.
I'm hoping to come to that States with Mike in November when he attends 2 conferences (SBL & ETS), but because of thing at Home in Oz I may go and visit my folks instead, I feel this great need to just be with them right now. And if me being there just for a little while helps, I'd rather to do that.

I'm thanking God for the blessing you have been to me in this short time..
Lifting you and your family in prayer.
Naomi

Susan said...

This was an awesome post. You seem to be a lot like me or maybe it is that all of us moms struggle with some of the same issues. My mom and dad are here visiting us and just the other day she said to me, "There you go using that hurry up word again." I guess God is trying to tell me something right now. MAybe I should listen to him and start enjoying these blessings he has given me.
Thanks for the great reminder.

katiegfromtennessee said...

Thanks Mommy dot com!

I am taking the Beth Moore study: Psalms of Ascent, and today the study was on Psalm 127 and that verse! I am looking forward to having children, if God so blesses me, one day. I do know what it is like to be in a big family-I am one of five girls, and I have a brother. There are times when I look at other people's kids (also, observing my siblings growing up) and think-wow, I hope my kids (if I have any) don't act that way! Then, I look at other's kids and think, YES, they are indeed a blessing to us directly from God!
Thanks for the perspective!

katiegfromtennessee

Darlene said...

Thank-you for praying for my family. When I read your prayer ...I just wept..I feel so blessed that God sent you to send me that prayer when I needed it most. Thanks for letting God use you!! With God's help I am pulling myself out of the pit and I hope to return to blogging today. Things are still on thin ice at home with my daughter...but at least she is still at home! Keep us in your prayers!
Thanks!!

Kara Akins said...

Everyone,
Let's pray for perfect peace over Darlene's home and family.

Much love,
Kara

Super Rockstar Momma said...

Thanks for your post--I needed it today. I am only the Mommy of one, but today was just a trying day. I spent most of it feeling sorry for myself and feeling guilty because I wasn't all there for my lil guy. You helped me put it into perspective.

Faith said...

What an inspiring post! I will have to file this away for the future. :)

About Me said...

Kara,
You do not know me and we have never met but thanks to the wonderful world wide web I have been blessed by knowing what little I do about. I am a friend of Naomi Bird, I too live in Inverness Scotland. Your prayer that you up lifted to the Lord for Naomi was so encouraging to me (for where I am at with my families lives). So I popped over to your blog to see who this prayer worrier was. And this post on your blog was also a great encouragement to me (I have to amazing little blessings from the Lord, Gaius (2) and Gideon (5months). So I praise the Lord for the way he used you to bless and encourage me. Thank you. It was nice to meet you. Blessings in Christ, Eleanor